Therapeutic reunion

Retired teacher Antoinette Messina, holding a picture of herself and her former student Rony Zeltser when he was in 1st grade, is flanked by (from left) Zeltser, her daughter Catherine and her husband John as they celebrate her 90th birthday.

Zeltser, now Messinaâs physical therapist, helps her learn to walk again during a session at her Bay Ridge home.
âDid I teach you anything?â Antoinette Messina asked her former 1st-grade student. âEverything,â said Rony Zeltser. âYou taught me everything.â
More than 30 years ago, Messina, now 90, taught the immigrant boy English. Through a twist of fate, Zeltser, now 42 and a physical therapist, is teaching Messina to walk again.
âThen you were the teacher,â he told her recently. âNow, Iâm the teacher.â
Zeltser emigrated from Israel in 1985 and spoke only Hebrew. His family settled in Borough Park, Brooklyn, where he was placed in 2nd grade at PS 180. The 7-year-old missed Israel and was frightened. âI didnât want to be here,â he said. After a few weeks, his mother noticed he seemed âlost.â
âShe peeked into the classroom and saw I wasnât learning,â said Zeltser, so she requested he be put in 1st grade to start at the beginning. âBecause that happened, Mrs. Messina was my teacher.â
His mother continued to check on him; what she saw warmed her heart. Messina âreally focused on me. She took me under her wing,â Zeltser remembers.
Messina taught mostly younger students and enjoyed helping them realize learning could be fun. âI felt very seriously that you start from the ones that are this high and you pull them up slowly,â she recalled, and âwhen they would say, âI canât,â Iâd say, âWhy not? Why canât you?ââ
At a 90th birthday celebration in her Bay Ridge, Brooklyn, home, with John, her husband of 62 years, and their daughter, Catherine, Zeltser told Messina, âYou put me on my feet.â
He doesnât remember many details from 1st grade. âBut I do remember her voice, and I remember she did a lot of one-on-one with me. She had a discipline about the way she taught. She had patience, and she made me feel comfortable,â he said.
Zeltser went on to flourish in school, even skipping 4th grade. âMrs. Messina gave me the foundation and, after that, I just caught up,â he said.
This April 15, Zeltser was assigned a new hospice patient by his employer, MJHS Home Care.
He made two visits before something clicked. âI parked outside her building, and it hit me. It was like a godsent message,â Zeltser said. âI thought, âThis has to be my 1st-grade teacher.â â
Zeltser confirmed his suspicion, and âeveryone was in shock we reunited,â he said. âIt was my turn to help her.â
He saw Messina for four hospice visits, and she was bedridden when discharged. Over his nearly 20 years in home care, âitâs a scenario Iâve seen way too often,â Zeltser said. âI knew if I stopped seeing her, she most likely would not pull through. I decided to continue volunteer visits and, little by little, I got her walking.â
They began with functional walks, from living room to kitchen, and eventually walked 50 feet together in the hallway. Their month of intense therapy âwas crucial to her progress,â Zeltser said.
But his commitment didnât end there. âMy promise to her and the family is that as long as sheâs here with us, Iâm going to visit,â he said. âShe deserves it.â
When he told his mother, âshe was crying,â Zeltser said. âNot only was I lost all those years ago, but she was lost, too. She didnât know what to do with me.â
He blew up an old photo his mother had taken of him and Messina and it âwas a great therapy tool,â he said. âIf it wasnât a good day, the picture put a smile on her face. Nine out of 10 times, it changed her mood. It helped me to work with her.â
Messina âdidnât only help me. She had a 40-year career and helped plenty of kids,â Zeltser said.
âI loved teaching,â said Messina. âI took it wholeheartedly.â